Unpacking The Emotional Baggage

Have you ever stayed in a relationship that you knew you should have let go of a long time ago? Instead of putting a fork in it and calling it done, you stayed knowing that it was toxic? Then when it finally ended, instead of taking the time to heal you brought along all that emotional hurt and frustration with you.

Do you have a friend or loved one and every time she is dating someone new it seems like the same old thing? She is complaining about the new man doing the same thing the last one did? New relationship same old drama, turmoil, and foolishness. Her emotional suitcase is full. She can’t fit anything else in it. It’s full of trust issues, bitterness, regret, anger, and insecurity.

I think we all have been there at least once or know someone who can relate.

Almost every woman has experienced her “What the heck was I thinking” relationship/s. There are so many that carry baggage from the past without realizing it. Instead of allowing themselves to heal they simply transfer the dysfunction and damage to a new relationship. The baggage never gets unpacked and as time goes on more is added to it. The same cycle continues over and over again. In order to truly move on, you must let go of the emotional baggage. If not, you will continue to carry it and your load will become increasingly heavy. There is a difference between learning from past heartbreaks and avoiding the same mistakes versus allowing them to make you bitter. Don’t give a man that much power over you where you are emotionally drained and dragging emotional baggage and hurt that is too much for you to carry.

A lot of times people don’t want to be alone after a breakup and look for someone else to attach to instead of taking a much needed break. There are times when being alone may be best before getting into a new relationship. It allows time to get your mind right and do some soul searching. It can open up your eyes to the pieces of baggage that need to be left behind. So when you are ready to allow love in your life, you can move forward with a lighter load.

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