Three Ways To Be More Confident

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If you don’t believe in yourself, who else is? Having confidence can make a difference in your life. It can help you to feel better about yourself and be more comfortable around others. It can motivate you to go after your dreams and goals. Here are three tips to help you become more confident.

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  • Don’t Compare Yourself to Others- Yes, it’s hard but very necessary. Constantly comparing yourself to what another woman is doing, how she looks, or what she has going on, will keep you in a state of competition and feeling less than your best. You are you alone and not five other people. You were made in the image of God and he created you to be a unique individual.

  • Stop Being So Mean… Be Nice- Do you often say mean things to yourself? “I’m so stupid why did I do that? I’m not pretty enough. I’m not smart enough.” If the answer is yes, then right now would be a great time to stop this bad habit. The more you say negative things about you, the more likely you are to believe them. Change that negativity and speak words that uplift and encourage you. Also, be forgiving to yourself when you make mistakes or a decision that didn’t work out the way you hoped. Dust yourself off, learn from it and move forward. Beating yourself up about it will make your confidence non existent.

  • Take Care of You- We as women tend to take care of everything and everyone else around us, leaving little time for self care. It’s important to take care of your mind, body, and spirit. Eating a more healthy diet and adding an exercising routine can do wonders. It can help increase your confidence in how you look and feel. It’s not only important to take care of yourself physically, but also mentally. Be honest about how you are feeling. In the black community there is still a stigma when it comes to seeking professional help, causing so many to suffer in silence. It’s okay to seek out professional mental help in those times you know it’s needed. Speaking with a pastor or spiritual leader is great too, but there is nothing wrong with seeking a therapist or counselor.

Here are some resources for mental health and physical health to check out.

Remember, you are Queen and a child of God. There is no need to walk around feeling less than. You are loved by HIM and he created you to do great things!

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