In a society consumed by reality shows filled with women cursing each other out and throwing hands, sizing each up other on social media, and eagerly anticipating the latest tea and gossip, it seems that “sistas” are no longer “sisters”! What happened to the sisterhood?
On May 22, 1962, in Los Angeles, California, Malcolm X gave a speech where he spoke these lines “The most disrespected person in America is the Black woman. The most unprotected person in America is the Black woman. The most neglected person in America is the Black woman.” Here we are in 2023, and unfortunately, those words still remain true. Even though we are aware of this fact, why do we still fail to unite?
As women, society automatically pits us against one another. We are conditioned to constantly compete with each other, striving to be more beautiful, younger-looking, more successful, or in better shape than our female counterparts. Oftentimes, the desperation to secure a desirable man intensifies this never-ending competition. This perpetual rivalry is detrimental to our well-being. Particularly in our community, the problem runs deeper due to the historical remnants of self-hatred instilled in our people during slavery. Consequently, we have developed the habit of tearing each other down unnecessarily. We have created a “crabs in a barrell” mentality where too many of us feel the need to pull the other one down, in order to be able to rise. As a race, we already face many challenges that demand our attention and collective effort; the last thing we need is to constantly compete and be divisive with each other.
We should refrain from being so quick to throw shade, and instead take the time to learn from one another. It is important to practice upliftment and encouragement, rather than negativity. The less animosity among us the better. It is imperative that we stand shoulder to shoulder. Instead of trying to diminish the next woman. If you see her crown falling off, instead of talking about her, help put it back on so she can walk in her Queendom too! By doing this, we can better contribute to and strengthen our communities, fostering a sense of unity that is lacking. Let us strive for a true sisterhood, where we show love, inspire, and support one another. Even if no one else chooses to defend or protects us, we must ensure that as a collective, we have each other’s best interests at heart. Let’s get back to sisterhood!
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